Smudge is a cute mutt but getting her to pose for a photo is like plaiting fog. She will not sit still, insists on wriggling like an eel and looks in any direction except the one required. We had a family outing, and found ourselves in a country park, in the wilds of Nottinghamshire. I think I need to send her to modelling school.
I am disappointed with myself. I know it’s wrong and shallow and sends out all the wrong signals. I realise that it’s bad on so many levels, for me, for the women concerned, even for the women excluded. So I confess it as a weakness on my part and hang my head in shame: I like skinny models.
I know it’s not healthy or politically correct. I hear and accept all of the arguements about anorexia and eating disorders. But these are reasoned arguements and do not effect the way I feel. What am I to do?
My only defence (and I realise this is pretty lame) is that my wife is naturally very slim, so it would be difficult for me to go on record as preferring the fuller figure, even if it was true, domestic bliss notwithstanding. Guilty as charged!
There is something about the combination of black or very dark hair with blue eyes that I find intensely attractive. I used to think that it was just because it is a relatively rare combination, blue eyes being more associated with light hair and black hair more with brown eyes, but now I’m not sure that’s the whole story. I can’t really explain why it affects me so. I just know that whenever I see it, something goes twang within me. Gorgeous!
Natalie Imbruglia, Courtney Cox, Katy Perry, Jessica Szohr, Michelle Trachtenberg, Megan Fox,
I recall Frank Zappa asking his audience “Is there anyone out there who thinks they’re good looking, y’know: you think you’re kinda cute? Well, you’d better watch out, ‘cos there are a hell of lot more of us ugly motherfuckers about.”
Broadblogs responded to my post “Naked Men” suggesting that the self-consciousness I was witnessing was a result of the idealised body images of men portrayed in the media. This is a problem more commonly associated and discussed in relation to women. The skinny models/anorexia/young women’s suicides debate has been raging for decades.
I understand that positive self-image and self-esteem are a large component of mental health. We need to feel good about ourselves in order to be able to function as “normal” human beings.
The natural progression of these arguements is to say that the media are making us ill. If that’s true, why do we let it happen? “The media” are people too: do they suffer the same fate? Who has anything to gain from creating a narrow tolerance of what a body should look like? It’s hard to believe that the models are responsible for its promotion, since they seem to suffer their own torture to maintain the way they look. Is this trend bigger than its players and impossible to deflect or stop? Is there a way to break the cycle?